What the bleep?

By: Demetria Pappas and Lisa Iadicicco

“Bullwinkle”…really?  Are you referencing the cartoon moose of the 70’s, or are you trying not to use the unprofessional words that could affect your career?

Will your choice of words, limit or enhance your choices in the workplace?

Melissa Leo at the Oscars saying the “F” word, Indiana University’s coach Bobby Knights’ characterization of an opposing team’s “chickens—t defense”,  Chicago’s Mayor Rahm Emanuel, when he was President Obama’s  chief of staff kept a sign on his desk in the White House that read “Undersecretary for Go F..K Yourself”.  Is this type of phraseology becoming more acceptable?

A 2007 study in Britain found that cussing on the job actually encourages camaraderie and boosts workplace morale. Well, that might be good for those across the pond, but here in America, the recommendation is still to use the words “sugar” instead of “s…t” and calling someone an “a—hole” is highly offensive.    If you intend to denounce a person’s value or importance—Use their work performance, not name calling as your first line of defense.

Of the 2000 executives in the US, surveyed by job site theladders.com, 81 percent said foul language at work was unacceptable and can be a reason for not getting that promotion. Women, even those in powerful positions, are expected to be more restrained, even daintier. Unfortunately, the impression made from the guy who curses is cool, and funny, but a woman who curses is aggressive and catty.

MMI suggests using a heavy duty filter when determining whether it’s OK to let loose at work:

1. Does the boss do it? And even then—deep breathe and pause. Cementing your reputation with one too many “F” words should not be part of your foundation.
2. Foul or slang words withstanding, word choice is more important now than ever since we have less vocal conversations with colleagues. Some helpful MMI hints for word choice:

• Use the words “I prefer” vs.  “I hate”
• Be a person who is “in demand” rather than “overwhelmed”
• Use “will have” instead of “ should have”
• Refrain from using definers like “never” and “always”

So if tempers flare, or when trying to solidify your point or you think you are being funny by cursing…think again. First, it’s degrading by any standard plus it takes the issue in question to the lowest common denominator.

Call on Mother, May I for additional thesaurus advice at MMIpgh@gmail.com

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 Demetria Pappas and Lisa Iadicicco are the Co-founders of Mother, May I-a premier company that trains and teaches proper behavior, common courtesies and social skills updated. MMI is licensed to train professionals in Protocol and Corporate etiquette.  MMI provides customized presentations for all audiences. MMI’s Mission  is to share valuable information for everyone to improve their world–“Changing your manners, may change your world”