By: Stephanie Benney
L-O-V-E. Those four little letters that combine to create one of the Universe’s biggest complexities; it is an emotion and action, a mystery, a drug, a catalyst, an inspiration and a muse, an asymmetrical, ambiguous entity without a concrete definition. Ask an 80 year old woman what love is and you will get a completely answer than you would if you ask a first grader – and neither one is wrong. Love is what love is…. to that person. Not only does it have various definitions, it has various forms. The love you have for your Mom is not the same love you have for your dog(well let’s hope not, anyway).
It is now the month of February; the month of love. So, for the next four weeks, concentration will be on that little four-letter word and all of its “personalities”. My question for you this week is, well, a two-parter. What is that one special love you have received or given and how did (does) it make you want to better yourself or the world? What has it inspired you to do?
We hear about it every day…the mountains we can move, the oceans we can swim, the endless possibilities we can accomplish, all because of love. Well, I don’t know about physically moving any mountains or swimming the Atlantic and Pacific, but I do know that love breaks down walls; they may not be visible, but they are the most dangerous and the most difficult…because you can’t see them and the work you must do until you are “in it”. They are the walls that keep one race hating another; that keep you feeling incompetent and unworthy of making a meaningful contribution to the world; that keep anger and bitterness at the helm.
Everyone’s wall is different and requires a different tool for climbing and conquering. For some, it’s the unconditional love of a furry, little friend. Sometimes, when the human world is so cold and cruel, walking in the door to a lick on the cheek from your canine companion is the best way to restore your faith in love and forgiveness.
How many of us have had relationships that have hurt us more than they have made us happy? You carry the damage and the wreckage of that relationship like a weighted prison ball. With each new breakup, the wreckage gets bigger and bigger, and you wonder why none of your relationships following the previous ever work out. Are you aware of each additional brick you continue to pile onto your wall? There is a person that will come into your life(and he/she will if you believe in love) who will love you so much that they will be everything you need to release that weighted ball. They see the amazement and wonder inside of you and help you to see it too. This love is what heals you, sets you free.
“One more push!” These are words that many mothers experience during the last moments of labor, as they birth their new child into a world of unknown. At the same moment a new mother is presented with her newborn child, a new love is also born. For most mothers, that love begins long before the child is born. However, when you are brought eye to eye with the physical form of your baby for the first time, the love reaches an entirely different level. This is the love that teaches you to be selfless.
There are so many other loves to explore. Some that are exclusive, some that are universal, but there is one love above all others; the love you have for yourself. Without it, you cannot expect to be loved in return, or understand love on any level. The Buddhist believes that you must first have a healthy relationship with yourself —- without a healthy you; you are no good to the betterment of Universe. So, put your climbing gear…
Stephanie Benney is a “Sustainable Visionary” and also the new Pittsburgh Representative for Fuzed Marketing, where she helps companies increase their brand presence. email@example.com